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My Stepfather / Mi Padrastro –

My stepfather. Sleepless nights, physical and psychological abuse. Running away from home because of it, and becoming a nomad out of necessity, being discriminated against for feeling like I could be anywhere but also feeling like I didn't belong anywhere. Creating my own path since I was 10 years old, forming my own moral principles, and deciding along the way what I wanted and didn't want to do with my life, despite the temptation to do everything morally wrong. Being a victim of the consequences of another child's trauma (my stepfather) and having to face the world at such a young age, and still emerging unscathed from such an experience, helped shape the man I am today, to rise above adversity, and to say NO to evil even though it was the only thing I knew. The abuse my stepfather inflicted on me and the unintentional complicity of a mother who made me feel alone and abandoned while I knelt and prayed to God in the early mornings to rescue me from that place, is the best thing that ever happened to me in life. Because despite my physical suffering and lack of help, I didn't realize that I was building the mental and emotional strength I now possess, the strength that made me build without depending on anyone, the strength that empowered me in my ventures, the strength that made me resilient in the face of discrimination for not being born with a silver spoon. The evil and destruction I endured as a child gave me the strength and emotional intelligence I have today, which allowed me to achieve everything I've set my mind to and to rise from blows that would knock down anyone else. Thank you, stepfather, thank you for being an instrument, I forgive you, it wasn't your fault, you were a victim too, I understand your pain, I felt it in my body while you unleashed your anger. Thank you for being an instrument of God. I am grateful for the life God gave me and your role in it.

The Original Spanish Writing:

Mi padrastro. Noches sin dormir, maltrato físico y psicológico. Escapar de mi casa por eso, y empezar a ser nómada por obligación, ser discriminado por sentir que podía estar en cualquier lugar pero sentir que no pertenecía a ningún lugar. Crear mi propio camino desde los 10 años, crear mis propios criterios morales y decidir en el camino lo que quería y no hacer con mi vida a pesar de la tentativa a hacer todo lo moralmente incorrecto. Haber sido víctima de las consecuencias del trauma de otro niño (mi padrastro) y tener que enfrentarme al mundo a tan corta edad y aún así salir ileso de tal experiencia me ayudó a formar el hombre que soy, a levantarme de las adversidades, y a decir NO al mal a pesar de que era lo único que conocía. El maltrato que me dió mi padrastro y la complicidad no intencional de una madre que me hizo sentir solo y desamparado mientras de rodillas pedía a Dios en las madrugadas que me rescatara de aquel lugar es lo mejor que me ha pasado en la vida. Porque a pesar de mi sufrimiento físico y la falta de ayuda no me di cuenta que iba construyendo la fortaleza mental y emocional que ahora tengo, esa que me hizo construir sin depender de nadie, lo que me dió fuerzas en mis emprendimientos, lo que me hizo fuerte antes la discriminación de no venir de cuna de oro. El mal y la destrucción del que fui víctima de niño me dió la fortaleza y la inteligencia emocional que tengo hoy en día que me permitió alcanzar todo lo que me he propuesto y levantarme de golpes que nadie normal se levantaría. Gracias padrastro, gracias por ser un instrumento, te perdono, no fue tu culpa, tu también fuiste víctima, entiendo tu dolor, yo lo sentí en mi cuerpo mientras descargabas tu ira. Gracias por ser un instrumento de Dios. Doy gracias por la vida que dios me dió y tú papel en ella.

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